Understanding and Improving Our Relationships

It is essential that you first read: Understanding Our Spiritual Journey.

Personal experiences with the Paths and the Sephiroth of the Kabbalah can occur daily through our relationships, but we must remain conscious of the Divine energies associated with their Life Purpose, their Assisting Energy, their Zodiac Energy, and their Yearly Lesson to correctly associate the personal experience with a Divine energy. We must also remain conscious of the Sephirah/Sephiroth they hold.

Enlightening Relationships

An Enlightening Relationship contributes directly to the soul’s growth of both individuals as it reveals aspects of enlightenment. If we hold the Light of a Sephirah on either the Left Pillar or the Right Pillar with a diagonal Path, we can identify an Enlightening Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with our horizontal opposite—also a Balanced Tree Relationship.
Example – Figure 1.1: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with XVII The Star (blue eyes).

We are also greatly captivated by anyone who holds the Light of a higher Sephirah, but there must be a single connecting diagonal Path between both Sephiroth—only contributes to our soul’s growth.
Example – Figure 1.2: XII The Hanged Man (brown eyes) with either XIII Death, XIV Temperance, or XV The Devil (blue eyes).

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Figure 1.2

Common Relationships

A Common Relationship is very comforting and grounding as both individuals share many similarities—an old friend you can always count on. We can identify a Common Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with anyone who holds the same Sephirah and the same polar aspect of the Sephirah as we do, the light or the shadow.
Example – Figure 1.3: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with XX Judgement (blue eyes).

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Balanced Path Relationships

A Balanced Path Relationship also contributes directly to the soul’s growth of both individuals as it brings balance to our Life Purpose; the balance of the Path—one holds the light of the higher Sephirah and the other holds the shadow of the lower Sephirah. We can identify a Balanced Path Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with anyone who holds the same Divine energy associated with their Life Purpose as we do but holds the opposite Sephirah—if we have green eyes, we already hold the balance of the Path.
Example – Figure 1.4: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with XIX The Sun (brown eyes).

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Balanced Sephirah Relationships

A Balanced Sephirah Relationship also contributes directly to the soul’s growth of both individuals as it brings balance to our physical and spiritual experiences; the balance of the Sephirah—one holds the light, and the other holds the shadow. We can identify a Balanced Sephirah Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with anyone who holds the opposite polar aspect of our Sephirah.
Example – Figure 1.5: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with either XII The Hanged Man, XV The Devil, or XVI The Tower (brown eyes).

Figure 1.5

Balanced Tree Relationships

A Balanced Tree Relationship also contributes directly to the soul’s growth of both individuals as it brings a new perspective to our Life Purpose and our physical and spiritual experiences; the balance of the Tree. We can identify a Balanced Tree Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with our horizontal opposite.
Example – Figure 1.6: XV The Devil (brown eyes) with XIII Death (brown eyes).

Figure 1.6

Divine Sibling Relationships

A Divine Sibling Relationship is not only very comforting and grounding, but also very energizing and supportive. We can identify a Divine Sibling Relationship on the Kabbalah (The Tree of Life) with anyone who holds the same Divine energy associated with their Life Purpose as we do, and the same Sephirah and polar aspect of it as we do—also a Common Relationship.
Example – Figure 1.7: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with XIX The Sun (blue eyes).

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The 10 Sephiroth

SephirahMinor Arcana CardKeyword
Kether, The Crown
The Divine source of all reality.
Ace of PentaclesThe Divine Kingdom
Ace of SwordsThe Sword of Knowledge
Ace of CupsThe Cup of Understanding
Ace of WandsThe Staff of Wisdom
Chokhmah, Wisdom
Gaining wisdom through the Divine source of all reality.
King of Pentacles, Two of PentaclesBalance
King of Swords, Two of SwordsReflection
King of Cups, Two of CupsPartnership
King of Wands, Two of WandsDominion
Binah, Understanding
Understanding the principles of creation and destruction.
Queen of Pentacles, Three of PentaclesWork
Queen of Swords, Three of SwordsGrief
Queen of Cups, Three of CupsAbundance
Queen of Wands, Three of WandsLeadership
Chesed, Mercy
The world of empathy, receptive intelligence, and spiritual virtues.
Four of PentaclesWealth
Four of SwordsRest
Four of CupsApathy
Four of WandsAchievement
Geburah, Strength
The world of power, courage, and cutting away all that keeps us from our spiritual growth.
Five of PentaclesMisery
Five of SwordsCruelty
Five of CupsDepression
Five of WandsConflict
Tiphareth, Beauty
The world of heart-centred awareness, harmony, and devotion.
Knight of Pentacles, Six of Pentacles Generosity
Knight of Swords, Six of SwordsRecovery
Knight of Cups, Six of CupsMemory
Knight of Wands, Six of WandsVictory
Netzach, Victory
The world of faith, the unseen, and the unknown.
Seven of PentaclesEffort
Seven of SwordsBetrayal
Seven of CupsIllusions
Seven of WandsCourage
Hod, Glory
The world of new beginnings, truth, and awakening.
Eight of PentaclesDetermination
Eight of SwordsCrisis
Eight of CupsUnfulfillment
Eight of WandsHaste
Yesod, The Foundation
The world providing a clear vision of the ebb and flow of reality.
Nine of PentaclesProsperity
Nine of SwordsTorment
Nine of CupsFulfillment
Nine of WandsEndurance
Malkuth, The Kingdom
The physical world.
Page of Pentacles, Ten of PentaclesKnowledge
Page of Swords, Ten of SwordsFailure
Page of Cups, Ten of CupsAccomplishment
Page of Wands, Ten of WandsBurden

The Four Worlds

The World of Atziluth, the World of Origins
The World of Atziluth is accessed through contemplation and is associated with the Tarot suit of Wands (creativity, passion, inspiration, action, willpower, intuition, etc.), the element of Fire, and our spiritual body. There is no form in this World, only Divine energy, and all other Worlds emanate from it. It is the World where the void of nothingness, Ain Soph Aur, becomes the consciousness of the universe, the Divine Spark.

The World of Beriah, the World of Creation
The World of Beriah is accessed through meditation and is associated with the Tarot suit of Cups (relationships, feelings, love, nurturance, imagination, etc.), the element of Water, and our emotional body. The thought of God is created in the consciousness of the Universe, the Divine Purpose.

The World of Yetzirah, the World of Formation
The World of Yetzirah is accessed through ritual and is associated with the Tarot suit of Swords (intellect, thoughts, logic, ideas, concepts, etc.), the element of Air, and our mental body. The concepts and plans of God are formed at the very threshold of the physical realm, the Divine Plan.

The World of Assiah, the World of Self-Expression
The World of Assiah is accessed through physical actions and is associated with the Tarot suit of Pentacles (finances, senses, skills, security, stability, etc.), the element of Earth, and our physical body. The Will of God is manifested on the physical realm, the Divine Creation.

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The Three Pillars

The Pillar of Form, the Left Pillar
The Pillar of Form is associated with the left-hand side of the body, the right-brain functions (creativity, imagination, visualization, intuition, etc.) and the Divine Feminine (receptive, calming, passive, etc.).

The Pillar of Equilibrium, the Middle Pillar
The Pillar of Equilibrium represents balance and harmony.

The Pillar of Force, the Right Pillar
The Pillar of Force is associated with the right-hand side of the body, the left-brain functions (logic, language, reasoning, math, etc.) and the Divine Masculine (projective, stimulating, outgoing, etc.).

Figure 1.9

Improving a Relationship

Example – Figure 1.10: XIX The Sun (blue eyes) with V The Hierophant (blue eyes).

Understanding both our four bodies (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) by contemplating on the following Tarot Spreads:

  • Physical Body:
    • 8 of Pentacles – XIX The Sun
    • King of Pentacles – 2 of Pentacles – V The Hierophant
  • Mental Body:
    • 8 of Swords – XIX The Sun
    • King of Swords – 2 of Swords – V The Hierophant
  • Emotional Body:
    • 8 of Cups – XIX The Sun
    • King of Cups – 2 of Cups – V The Hierophant
  • Spiritual Body:
    • 8 of Wands – XIX The Sun
    • King of Wands – 2 of Wands – V The Hierophant

Embodying the divine energies of the connecting Paths by contemplating on the following Tarot Spread:

  • IV The Emperor – XV The Devil

Understanding the Worlds of both Sephiroth:

  • The World of Beriah, the World of Creation
  • The World of Yetzirah, the World of Formation

Understanding the Pillars of both Sephiroth:

  • The Pillar of Form, the Left Pillar
  • The Pillar of Force, the Right Pillar
Figure 1.10

The Eyes Meditation Exercise

The following meditation exercise will allow us to embody a deeper personal experience with the Path and Sephirah—or Sephiroth—the other person holds, but it must be practiced with someone we love and trust (a spouse, a partner, a close friend, a sibling, etc.) as we will be making ourselves vulnerable by removing our false mask, revealing our true self, and allowing the other person to look deep within our Divine soul; we will be revealing our greatest ambitions and desires and our deepest fears and insecurities.

  • After activating your palm chakras, sit facing the other person in the Lotus position, with your knees touching.
  • Rest your left hand with your palm facing up on your left knee and on the other person’s right knee, and then rest your right hand with your palm facing down over the other person’s left hand.
  • Maintain eye contact throughout this exercise, but as you look into the other person’s eyes, you must look past their physical eyes and enter deep within their soul as you allow them to also look deep within your soul—we will be channeling their higher self, and they will be channeling our higher self. You must also remain conscious of the Divine energy associated with their Life Purpose, and of the Sephirah—or Sephiroth—they hold.
  • Start by spending a couple of minutes enjoying the connection and getting past any silliness or awkwardness, you may then complete this meditation exercise for ten minutes.
  • The final part of this meditation exercise is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with the other person, expressing anything and everything that we experienced through our physical and spiritual senses.